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Friday, March 09, 2007

Angry buzzed/drunk rant

About 2-3 years ago, I decided to not make anyone's problem my problem.  Why?  Whenever I listen to someone whole-heartedly, I always end up being the one that's hurt.  ALWAYS.  The knight in shining armor always gets fucked over.  I want to solve that person's problem.  I don't ever want to see that person hurt in ANY way.

Their problem becomes my problem.

I've come to the conclusion that the above decision is almost impossible to follow.

We're all human.  We all have emotions.  No matter how hard we try to hide those emotions, they will come out in some way.  We all have some degree of empathy in ourselves- we HAVE to feel for that person.  I ALWAYS want to help, and I feel guilty as hell when I don't.

Now here's the catch- whenever I help someone, I give away a piece of myself to them.  Whatever they decide to do with that piece of myself that I give to them, it's their decision.  The bottom line is that they were given a piece of myself.

I don't want to give away too much of myself.

I never get any reciprocation.  As in, I barely feel the act of being listened to.  They take that piece of myself and give it to someone else.  I don't expect anything returned to me, but I try to bring up the subject of myself at times- but nobody ever fucking cares.  Selfish?  No.  It's beginning to become fact to me.  Almost everybody just does not give a damn when it's their turn to listen to me.

That's exactly how I end up being hurt-  that piece never finds its way back to me.  Nobody ever CARES to give that piece back to me.  Ever.  I give my piece and THAT'S IT.

Is it because I make myself unavailable?  When I'm listening to other people, that would be the act of making myself available...

Hmm...  so why am I always getting fucked over?  Why is this cycle always repeating?


Wednesday, March 07, 2007

I'm sure everyone's felt this before.  This is certainly NOT the first time I have.

Why is it that whenever someone asks me for a favor, WHATEVER IT MIGHT BE, I do it.
However, whenever I ask someone for a favor, WHATEVER IT MIGHT BE, they are unavailable.

What has me concerned is that I'm either taking notice of other people's selfishness or I'm blind to my own.

I've had way too much time to think lately.


Thursday, March 01, 2007

Why didn't I think of this before?

Yeah, it's been awhile since I've wrote in this thing.  But, right now, at this very moment, I've come to these thought provoking yet very true realizations:

I fail because I want to fail.

I succeed because I want to succeed.




Friday, March 03, 2006

Holy good lord, I'm freaking bored...  Why did I choose to stay in again?  Oh yeah... work...  freaking work...  I don't want my head bitten off by the demoness I call my boss.  Hey boss, if you're reading this, you're not that bad...  for a demon...ess... 

I'm gonna do one of those online blog surveys cuz I'm so freakin bored.

Read at your own risk.  (or if you have a LOT of time on your hands... kinda like me.)

THE BEYOND ULTIMATE PERSONALITY SURVEY - 200 q's
[beyond basics]
name:: Jay Ferreria Galam
age:: 2 + 3
location:: Willowbrook
height:: Like 6'0 and 1/2... at least that's what my doctor says... those rulers at 7-11 say I'm like, 5'11 or 6'ish.
weight:: I broke every scale I've been on, so I dunno.
eye color:: Brown
nationality:: FILIPINO! (Pacific Islander)
natural hair color:: Black
hair style:: Unkempt, unwashed, and greasy. Mmmm...
do you dye your hair:: I'm not a fag... or old.
do you wear contacts/glasses:: Yes and Yes
schooling:: Bachelors of Science in Computer Information Systems, and 1/2 way through an Associates in Nursing
desired occupation:: Systems Analyst or QC Nurse
job:: Mortgage Loan Auditor at Ocwen Financial / Paige (Temp... maybe perm someday)
tattoos:: Nope
piercings:: I want my ears pierced so that I can stick those huge 60 pound earrings through em so that I can have sagging ear lobes dragging on the ground behind me. Mmmm... sexy.
tattoos you want:: Something that has a LOT of meaning...
piercings you want:: Nope
religion you were raised under:: "Filipino Catholic"
religion you are now if any:: Yup... Still "Filipino Catholic"
zodiac sign:: Gemini
birth date:: 6-10-82
boyfriend/girlfriend?: Free.
siblings?: One... my brothers.
[beyond intrests]
what do you do for fun?: A little of everything... seriously.
any hobbies?: Uhh.. lately I've been doing dorky crap.. but fitness out is a good stress reliever...
do you collect anything?: Final Fantasy Games. Yup, that justifies the dorky crap part.
what do you do when you hang with friends?: Say a lot of stupid shit, do a lot of stupid shit, say a LOT of random things that don't really correlate with each other...
do you watch tv?: Maybe like 2 hours a week- during football season, you best not disturb me on Sunday. :)
fav shows?: 24, American Idol
do you listen to music?: Heck yea.
fav bands?: Phil Collins/Genesis, Sting and the Police, Tiesto
fav songs?: The Police - Roxanne, Atlantic Starr - Always, Tiesto - In Search of Sunrise 4
do you watch movies?: Kinda.
fav movies?: The Green Mile, Pirates of the Caribbean, Saving Private Ryan, Collateral, The Replacements
prefer to rent or go to theater?: Theatre all the way... some movies lose their gusto when not seen in a theatre...
fav actors?: Patrick Stewart, Tom Hanks (obviously if I love his movies), Johnny Depp
fav actresses?: Dunno.
do you watch cartoons?: Not really.
fav cartoons?: X-MEN! (When it was on... god damn Power Rangers for taking it's time slot.)
do you like anime?: Just "mainstream" stuff.
what are your favs?: ONE PIECE@!!%#!@#$^SAKHJSADJF... and Bleach.
do you like sports?: Wow yeah.
what are your fav sports?: Football, basketball
do you read?: Sorta... I love philosophy.
fav books?: Dunno... forgot. I usually read like inspirational stuff or philosophy.
do you play video games?: NO, I DON'T. I BOWL... A LOT.
any favorites?: Madden 06', Halflife Counterstrike / Day of Defeat, Quake QWTF, Warcraft III, Starcraft, ANY Final Fantasy (Final Fantasy XI took up 1/3rd of a year's time... literally.)
how often do you go on the internet?: Is this world real?
any fav websites?: nfl.com, xanga, myspace, tigerdirect, outpost, pricewatch, e-bay (I don't even have an account on e-bay, but yet I look at shit on there... how stupid.)
[beyond love]
do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/lover/husband/wife?: I have a lover, and it's name is Gameboy Advance.
whats their name?: Gameboy Advance
how did you meet?: I bumped into it at the store, and we made eye contact... it all went downhill from there.
how long have you been together?: Mmmm... 1 month... no it's not a fling-thang.
how long do you want it to last?: Forever and ever... till the end of time... or till something cooler comes along.
what do you see in your future?: Me buying Dr. Mario and playing it.
how far have you gone with them?: Home run, baby.
are you in love with them?: I'm prepared to spend my life with it.
best memories with them?: First time we met, of course.
what do you love most about them?: I can change its bitch-ass when I don't like it. Oh, and it's beautiful smile.
do you trust them?: I let it drive home when I'm under the influence.
do you think you will some day marry them?: Yes, and we'll make many saved games together. I would NEVER cheat on it............ fuck, I'm a dork... or weird.
[beyond friends]
do you have a best friend?: Yeah, like 4000-10000 of them.
whats their name:: Maggot McFaggot
who are you close friends:: You know who ya'll are.
do you have any online friends:: No.
who are they:: Imafag60969, emochix4593, yoimaznfooXOXO
who are your closest online friends:: Dunno if I have online friends... maybe "friends"
what friends can you talk to about anything:: As of lately, nobody. My mom? No, really... she gives great advice.
what friends do you fight with a lot:: Dunno really... I think I get along with all one of them.
what friends are most like you:: You'd be suprised... like 1000-2000 of them.
do you have many friends or just a few?: Like 80000-110000 of them.
do you want more friends?: Yeah, like 600000-1000000 more would be good.
what do you like to do with your friends?: Heh heh heh.
where do you like to go with your friends?: We like to bowl.
[beyond spiritual]
do you have a religion?: Yes
what is it?: Voodoo.
believe in god/gods and or goddess/goddesses?: Yeah.
do you believe in heaven/hell?: Kinda... noone seems to know what it really is... prolly cuz noone has personal accounts of actually BEING there.
reincarnation?: Yeah.
spirits/ghosts?: Wow... YEAH.
karma?: Oh god YEAH!
the law of 3?: What the fuck is the law of 3?
the 10 commandments?: 9 of them are good guidelines, but the "using God's name in vain" thing is ridiculous in this day and age.
angels?: If they're in the outfield.
how long have you believed in what you believe currently?: Born Catholic... prolly will die a liberal one, too.
do you believe in fairies?: Yeah, the butt fairy. Whatever.
the existence of a devil?: Yeah, the butt devil. Whatever.
an afterlife?: How about a Half-Life? Heh heh heh... ok ok ok YES.
what do you think of other religions?: VERY interesting.
do you think your religion/belief is the RIGHT one?: No way. Just live a good life, don't kill anyone, and do onto others as you would do to yourself, and you won't go see the Butt Devil.
[beyond family]
do you get along with your parents?: I would like to think so.
are they still married?: Yes.
do you listen to what they say?: Yes. My dad says a lot of stupid shit, but I believe him.
are you close with them?: Just mom. My dad's an idiot.
are they good parents?: Yes.
any siblings?: Yes, one brothers. (it's a wisecrack about his weight, ok?! Geez.)
how old are they?: 31.
do you get along with them?: Very much so. He's heavy... he's my brother.
[beyond favorites]
fav colors:: Blue
fav foods:: Everything but seafood and mangos.
fav drinks:: Coconut and Taro Lychee Freeze. :p
fav scents:: My upper lip.
fav time of day:: Night.
fav day of the week:: Saturday
fav season:: Fall
fav month:: June
fav holiday:: Thanksgiving
fav restaurant:: HONG MIN
fav stores:: Fry's Electronics
fav brands:: Dunno... anything that won't fall apart in 3 days.
fav magazines:: Men's Health, Maxim
fav piece of clothings:: My Grandpa's Sport Coat
fav piece of jewelry:: My Grandpa's Rolex
[beyond "are you..."]
creative?: Somehow, yes.
logical?: I'm very abstract when I'm in one of those introspective moods, but think VERY logically when it comes down to problem solving and decision making.  How bout them apples? 
rational?: I guess I'm pretty down to earth, but everyone has ideals... no? 
melodramatic?: Sometimes... when I'm pissed.
crazy?: Sometimes... when I'm piss drunk.
nice?: Most of the time.
bitchy?: Don't annoy me, and I won't dropkick you in the face.
happy?: Only when I dropkick people in the face.
sad?: I'm pretty happy, actually.
mean?: Only when I think you're a total punk.
loving?: Very much so.
romantic?: I try.
friendly?: Yep!
unique?: As unique as a fox.  I'm hella weird like one, too. 
dark?: Blacker than black licorice
intresting?: When I want to be.
cynical?: Hell no! I see the good in people all the time.
hateful?: HAHAHAHAHAHAH... more like grudgeful.
promiscuous?: No way. I'm the honorable idiot.
stoned?: Uhhh no.
drunk?: Lately? A hell of a lot.
fake?:

OH YEA I'M FROM THE GHETTO NIGGGGGGGGGGGGGGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!  STRAIGHT FROM COMPTON!  Wow, I hate fake punks.

real?: Yes, to the point where it hurts other people.
truthful?:

Yes, even when it hurts.  If I give you one word answers, it's not the truth.  You don't wanna know what I think, but I usually tell it anyway.

[beyond other quetions]
do you love yourself?: If I could give myself a huge hug, I would.  So, I let other people do it for me.
do you love your life?: Yes, and everything about it.
do you have any pets?: No... I'm deathly allergic to anything with fur.
do you want more pets?: If I could, I'd get an alaskan husky with piercing grey/blue eyes.
fav animal?: A dog.
do you care what people think of you?: Not really, no.
do you follow trends?: Sometimes, sadly...
what do you value most in life?: People who come along for the journey.
what do you enjoy most in life?: The people who I meet during the journey.
do you value your individuality?: Very much so.  I'm hella weird, dude.  A total goof.
do you like shopping?: I like your mom.
do you love money?: Just enough of it to carry on my life processes.
do you wear prefume/cologne/body spray?: Cool Water. That Polo stuff smells like old man butt... or reminds me of it... 
do you shower/bath?: Uhhhhhhhh... YEAH!
how often?: I'm the idiot that takes a shower before I go to sleep, then wake up and take a shower. Like I'm gonna get dirty in my sleep?!
do you paint your nails?: YES!
what colors?: I try to get a different color on every finger.
what kind of clothes do you wear?: Just be thankful I -WEAR- clothes, ok?
if you had to label yourself what would you say you are? prep/punk/goth,etc: Prunkth
do you drink coffee?: I'm addicted to it, but it's getting in the way of my cocaine addiction... 
do you drink soda?: Only with liquor.
tea?: Yes, I'm addicted to this too.
do you use lotion?: Yes, for its intended purpose........
fav flowers?: A Pansy, cuz it reminds me of you.
do you like the sims?: Huh?
favorite gem stone?: I dunno... I can't get a ring to fit my fat fingers.
do you like candles?: Depends if they like me back.
do you eat breakfast?: Mmmmmm yeah... my favorite meal along with Lunch and Dinner
what are your views on abortion?: All for it.
gun control?: If I can own one... a BIG one.  One that shoots a bullet so big that it can kill 60 elephants.
peace?: It's possible... anything's possible.
george w. bush?: He's ok, but then again, you can't like EVERYTHING about a politician or a leader.  Same goes with everything else.
the war?: I like lower gas prices. GO IMPERIALISM!  (Ok, the countless lives lost and or destroyed are definatly not worth me saving a few cents on my gas.)  Don't get me started on what I really think.
where do you want to go/countries you want to see?: Iraq... only if I have a gun.
what do you want to do before you die?: I really don't wanna think about that!
are there any celebrities you'd like to kill?: Yes.
who and who would you kill them?: Terrell Owens... what a greedy, selfish idiot. Try thinking before you speak. It's one thing to have talent, but it's another to have moderation.
how easily do you trust people?: Very easily.
do you like people?: Yeah.
are you popular?: I dunno.. I'm past that shit now. What do you think this is... high school?
how many dvds do you own?: 0
cds?: Like 20.
do you like horror movies?: That's like asking if I want my testicles cut off. YES OF COURSE!
any favorites?: Uhhh.. I was kidding. I have better ways to spend my time.
have you ever had braces?: Never.
how often do you brush your teeth?: Never.
do you floss?: My teeth are actually hardened tartar.
are you afraid of needles?: Nope.
when are you getting your next/first/any tattoos?: Maybe very very soon.
when are you getting your next/first/any piercing?: Ugh.. never?
do you think tattoos are sexy?: Depends on what they are. The tattoo on the small of the back thing is overdone, however.
do you think piercings are sexy?: Do you think Sea Urchins are sexy?
are you addicted to surveys? lol: No. Only when I'm really REALLY bored.

Hopefully, you've learned a little something about me... besides the fact that I need a life and more friends.  That killed a good hour, and now it's sleepy time for Jay.    Night night, my one friend...

edit:  HOLY FUCK, TAHT SURVEY WAS 200 QUESTIONS?!!?  WTFOFSDAKJ.

edit #2:  Wow, I was really bored, wasn't I?  That is hella long.


Thursday, February 23, 2006

Yeah, I know I haven't posted anything in Xanga for awhile...  I've been hella busy with work.  When I mean hella busy, I mean HELLA busy.  I promise to post more, though. 

I got the following from an e-mail and I thought it was worthy of posting:

In Honor of Stupid People

In case you needed further proof that the human race
is doomed through stupidity, here are some actual label instructions on
consumer goods:


On a Sears hairdryer -- Do not use while sleeping.

(Darn, and that's the only time I have to work on my hair.) 

On a bag of Fritos -- You could be a winner!  No purchase necessary.  Details inside.

(the shoplifter special?) 

On a bar of Dial soap -- "Directions: Use like regular soap."

(and that would be how???....) 

On some Swanson frozen dinners -- "Serving suggestion:   Defrost."

(but it's "just" a suggestion.)

On Tesco's Tiramisu dessert (printed on bottom) --
"Do not turn upside down."

(well...duh, a bit late, huh!)

On Marks & Spencer Bread Pudding -- "Product will be hot after heating." 

(...and you thought????...)

On packaging for a Rowenta iron -- "Do not iron clothes on body."

(but wouldn't this save me more time?)

On Boot's Children's Cough Medicine -- "Do not
drive a car or operate machinery after taking this medication."

(We could do a lot to reduce the rate of
construction accidents if we could just get those 5-year-olds
with head-colds off those forklifts.)

On Nytol Sleep Aid -- "Warning: May cause drowsiness."

(and...I'm taking this because???. ...)

On most brands of Christmas lights -- "For indoor or outdoor use only."

(as opposed to...what?)

On a Japanese food processor -- "Not to be used for the other use."

(now, somebody out there, help me on this. I'm a bit curious.) 

On Sainsbury's peanuts -- "Warning: contains nuts"

(talk about a news flash)

On an American Airlines packet of nuts --
"Instructions: Open packet, eat nuts." 

(Step 3: maybe, uh...fly Delta?)

On a child's Superman costume -- "Wearing of this garment does not enable you to fly."

(I don't blame the company. I blame the parents for this one.)

On a Swedish chainsaw -- "Do not attempt to stop chain with your hands or genitals." 

(Oh my God...was there a lot of this happening somewhere?)

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Ok, slacking time is over.  Back to work for me.  Damn projects. 



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